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Couples Therapy in Enfield and Online
You may still care deeply about each other. After another argument, or a quiet evening apart, you might feel hurt, lonely or unsure how to find your way back. Perhaps family life, parenting, intimacy or differences between you have made closeness harder to reach.
Therapy can offer a steady space where both of you feel heard, helping you slow things down and understand what keeps happening between you.
I'm Adam Lawrence-Rodriguez, a therapist registered with the BACP, with specialist couples training from Tavistock Relationships. If you think I might be able to support you, I'd be glad to hear from you.
Who I work with
I work with couples whose lives may look steady from the outside, while privately they feel hurt, lonely or caught in patterns that have become hard to shift alone.
The same argument keeps returning
You both leave conversations feeling misunderstood, and the route back to one another becomes harder to find.
You feel close in some ways, lonely in others
Daily life continues, but warmth, sex or emotional intimacy may feel increasingly difficult to reach.
Parenthood or family life has changed the relationship
You may be managing children, work and practical responsibilities while feeling unsure where the couple has gone.
Difference, hurt or mistrust sits between you
Culture, race, faith, family expectations or unresolved experiences may shape conflict and closeness in ways that are difficult to name.
If any of this feels familiar, you are welcome to get in touch. It is common for one person to make the first enquiry, even when their partner feels less certain.
How I work with you
Therapy offers time to slow down what keeps happening between you: the argument, the silence, the distance, and the things that have become hard to say.
I will not take sides. I help you slow down what happens between you, particularly in moments of conflict, distance or hurt. I pay attention not only to what you disagree about, but to what happens between you as you try to speak about it, so both experiences can be heard without casting either person as the problem.
I work relationally and psychodynamically, paying attention to what happens between you and to the experiences that have shaped each of you. My lived experience and strategic work in race equity inform a sensitivity to culture, race, identity and belonging, including how difference can be felt within a relationship. I am also interested in how gender, faith and class shape expectations, power and closeness. These parts of life are welcome in the work, though I will not assume I already understand what they mean for either of you.
Beginning therapy
Once you get in touch, I will reply personally within a day or two and arrange an initial consultation with you.
Initial consultation
A first couples consultation of fifty minutes, for £80. This is not a commitment to ongoing work. It is a chance to understand what brings you, what you might need, and whether working together feels right.
Weekly sessions
Regular weekly sessions give the work continuity. Couples therapy is £120 per session. A small number of reduced-fee spaces are available for those who would otherwise be unable to access therapy.
The work over time
In ongoing sessions, I pay attention to how arguments begin, how distance grows, and what becomes difficult to say. I also make space to think with you about how the work is feeling and what you both need from it.
FAQ
Questions that may arise while you are still deciding what kind of support might feel right.
How do I know whether couples or individual therapy is right for me?
Couples therapy focuses on what happens between partners and can help when conflict, distance, intimacy, trust or family life have become difficult. Individual therapy gives you space to understand your own feelings, history, identity and relationship patterns. You may also choose individual therapy if your partner does not wish to attend.
What if my partner is unsure about therapy?
It is common for one person to begin looking first. The initial consultation gives both of you space to speak and experience how I work. Neither person needs to arrive equally certain, and making the first enquiry does not mean one of you is being blamed.
Will you tell us whether to stay together?
No. I will not direct you to separate or remain together. Couples therapy can help you understand the relationship more clearly, including what keeps happening between you and what may or may not be possible to change.
Is what I am experiencing serious enough for therapy?
You do not need to be at breaking point or have a diagnosis. People often begin because something feels heavy, lonely, repetitive or difficult to understand alone. Recognising that something needs care and attention can be an important first step.
Can we talk about sex, parenting, identity or the differences that shape us?
Yes. Therapy can include sex, parenting, race, culture, faith, identity, gender and our relationship to masculinity or femininity. These parts of life can be spoken about carefully and without assumptions.
What happens after I contact you?
I reply personally, usually within a day or two, and arrange an initial fifty-minute consultation. This is not a commitment to ongoing therapy. Sessions are available online and in person near Enfield Town, Enfield Chase and Winchmore Hill.
More about couples therapy
Read more about how I work with couples, what sessions are like and the difficulties we might begin to understand together.
Couples Therapy in Enfield
How couples therapy begins, what ongoing sessions are like and practical information about meeting in Enfield or online.
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When you feel ready
You do not need to have everything worked out or know exactly what to say. Whether you are looking for support for your relationship or for yourself, a few words about what has brought you here are enough to begin.
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