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Online Couples Therapy
Meet together online from a private place, with flexibility around work, childcare or where you live.
Explore online couples therapy →Couples and individual therapy
Couples and Individual Therapy in Enfield and Online
Thoughtful, relational therapy when things feel overwhelming, distant or difficult to carry alone.
I work with couples and individuals in Enfield, North London, and online across the UK.
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Couples therapy
Couples Therapy
When it has become harder to reach each other.
What is couples therapy? It gives you both a place to slow down and understand what happens between you, including the patterns behind repeated arguments, distance or hurt, rather than simply who is right or wrong.
Repeated arguments, emotional distance, difficulties with sex or intimacy, loss of trust, infidelity, becoming parents or differences around family, culture and identity can all bring couples to therapy.
Explore Couples Therapy →Couples therapy or couples counselling?
The terms overlap, and different therapists use them differently. I mostly use couples therapy because it fits my relational and psychodynamic approach. If you searched for couples counselling or relationship counselling, you may be looking for the same kind of support.
The label matters less than the therapist’s training, way of working and whether both of you feel able to speak.
What may be happening between you
I work with couples whose lives may look steady from the outside, while privately they feel frightened by the distance, anger or loss of trust between them.
The same argument keeps returningYou both leave conversations feeling misunderstood, and the route back to one another becomes harder to find.You feel close in some ways, lonely in othersDaily life continues, but warmth, sex or emotional intimacy may feel increasingly difficult to reach.Parenthood or family life has changed the relationshipYou may be managing children, work and practical responsibilities while feeling unsure where the couple has gone.Trust, intimacy or difference sits between youCulture, race, faith, family expectations or unresolved experiences may shape conflict and closeness.
How I work with couples
Couples therapy pays attention to both of you and to the relationship taking shape between you.
I help slow the conversation down before it reaches the same painful ending. I pay attention to who has room to speak, who becomes quiet and what happens when either of you feels blamed, ashamed or misunderstood.
Sometimes the wider context matters too. Race and culture, sexuality and gender, neurodivergence, ethical non-monogamy, or the pressures of work and city life can all shape what happens between two people without being the whole explanation for it.
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Individual therapy
Individual Therapy
When life feels difficult to carry or make sense of alone.
What is individual therapy? It offers a regular space to understand what you are feeling, what may be shaping it and patterns that keep returning in relationships, work, family life or how you relate to yourself.
People come with anxiety, low mood, loss, relationship difficulties, questions about identity or experiences that have become difficult to understand alone.
Explore Individual Therapy →Therapy or counselling?
The terms overlap, and different therapists use them differently. I mostly use therapy because it fits my relational and psychodynamic approach. If you searched for counselling or talking therapy, you may be looking for the same kind of support.
The label matters less than the therapist’s training, way of working and whether you feel able to speak openly.
What may be difficult to carry alone
I work with people who may appear capable and composed while privately feeling anxious, low, hopeless, lonely or unsure of themselves.
Anxiety and overthinking are difficult to switch offYou may feel tense or unable to rest, particularly when everything else becomes quiet.You feel low, hopeless or unlike yourselfYou may still be functioning outwardly while privately feeling empty, withdrawn or unsure that things can change.Something significant still stays with youA loss, trauma, relationship ending or another major experience may continue to affect how you feel and relate.You are thinking about identity, race, gender or belongingYou may be questioning who you are, what has been expected of you or where you feel able to be fully yourself.
How I work in individual therapy
Individual therapy offers time to understand what keeps returning, and to sit with feelings that have been difficult to hold or make sense of alone.
I work relationally and psychodynamically, paying attention to what is happening now and to the relationships and experiences that may have shaped how you respond to yourself and others.
Race, culture, identity, gender, faith and class can all be part of the work. I will not assume I already understand what any of these experiences mean for you.
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About me
A little about me
I'm Adam Lawrence-Rodriguez, a BACP-registered relationship therapist in North London, based in Enfield. I also work online with clients across the UK.
I trained at Tavistock Relationships, a specialist centre focused on couple relationships, with extensive clinical study and practice in working with couples and individuals.
My style is thoughtful, relational and engaged. I listen carefully and give things room, but I am not a completely silent therapist. I may slow something down, ask a question or notice a pattern that keeps returning, particularly when something important is difficult to put into words.
My background includes senior work in race equity, and I'm also a member of BAATN. I bring particular sensitivity to race, culture, identity, masculinity and difference. I'm interested in how these parts of our lives meet relationships, family histories and the ways we have learned to protect ourselves.
Online or in person
In person or online, there should be room to think.
Face-to-face sessions are available from rooms in Enfield Town, Enfield Chase and Winchmore Hill, all in North London. I also work online across the UK. Choose the setting that gives you enough privacy, time and space to settle into the work.
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Frequently asked
Common questions about couples therapy
Some questions that can come up when you are deciding whether couples therapy feels right.
What can couples therapy help with?
Couples therapy can help with repeated arguments, emotional distance, difficulties with communication, sex or intimacy, loss of trust, infidelity, the impact of parenthood, family pressures and differences around culture or identity. You do not need to be at breaking point to come.
What if my partner doesn't want couples therapy or isn't sure?
It is common for one person to begin looking first. The initial consultation gives both of you room to speak and experience how I work. I will not assume that the person who made the enquiry is right, or that the less certain partner is the problem.
What should we expect from couples therapy or couples counselling?
Whatever term brought you here, sessions give both of you room to slow things down and notice what happens between you before an argument, withdrawal or familiar feeling takes over. I listen to both partners and pay attention to what becomes difficult to say, the patterns that repeat and the experiences that may sit underneath them. My role is not to decide who is right.
Is online couples therapy different from meeting in person?
The therapeutic work can be equally thoughtful online, but the setting changes some practical things. Online sessions can be easier around work, childcare or distance, while meeting in person gives you a separate physical room and time around the session. My online couples therapy page explains privacy, attending from different places and what changes when the therapist is on screen.
How do we begin couples therapy?
We begin with a 50-minute initial consultation, costing £80. It gives both of you room to speak, helps me understand what has brought you and lets us see whether working together feels right. There is no pressure to commit to ongoing therapy in that meeting. Ongoing couples sessions are weekly and cost £120.
Frequently asked
Common questions about individual therapy
Some questions that can come up when you are deciding whether one-to-one therapy feels right.
What can individual therapy help with?
Individual therapy can be helpful when you are living with anxiety, overthinking, low mood, relationship difficulties, loss, a breakup, trauma, self-criticism or questions about identity and belonging. It can also help when you cannot point to one crisis but know that something feels repetitive, lonely or hard to carry alone.
Is what I'm experiencing serious enough for therapy?
You do not need a diagnosis or to be at breaking point. People often begin therapy because something feels heavy, confusing or difficult to understand alone, even when they are still functioning well in other parts of life.
What should I expect from individual therapy?
Sessions give us time to think together about what is happening now and what may be shaping it. I work relationally and psychodynamically, which means we can pay attention to current feelings and relationships as well as earlier experiences and patterns that may keep returning. You do not need to arrive knowing exactly what to talk about.
Is online individual therapy different from meeting in person?
Online individual therapy can offer the same regular therapeutic relationship without travel, while meeting in person provides a separate physical space away from home or work. Privacy, where you sit and what happens immediately before and after a session can feel different online, so it is worth choosing the setting that gives you enough room to think.
How do I begin individual therapy?
We begin with a 50-minute initial consultation, costing £50. It gives you space to tell me what has brought you, ask questions and see whether working together feels right. There is no pressure to commit to ongoing therapy in that meeting. Ongoing individual sessions are weekly and cost £80.
From the Reading Room
Sometimes a small moment says a lot.
The Reading Room is a collection of short reflections on ordinary moments that can be difficult to explain but easy to recognise. They are not advice pieces or homework. They are invitations to pause and think about what might be happening underneath.
Explore the Reading Room →For relationships
Between UsThey come home from work and barely speak.When distance is hard to name but easy to feel.
→Love Online“Nothing happened.” So why does it feel like cheating?When nothing is explicit, but something still feels broken.
→Love OnlineTheir phone is right there. You tell yourself you’ll only look once.When reassurance lasts only until the next doubt arrives.
→For yourself
Love OnlineStill no reply. You check your phone again.When looking again promises relief but rarely gives it.
→Love OnlineYou were fine until you started scrolling.When someone else's life follows you off the screen.
→Love OnlineYou’re off work. Your phone doesn’t seem to know.When your attention never gets to fully come home.
→Ready to take the next step?
Arrange a consultation for couples or individual therapy in Enfield or online.
Request an AppointmentHave a question first?
If you have a practical question about therapy, availability or how I work, you're welcome to message me on WhatsApp.
Ask a question on WhatsApp →07356 204020WhatsApp is best for practical questions rather than confidential or urgent support.
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