I am looking for therapy for
Couples Therapy in Enfield and Online
You may still care deeply about each other. After another argument, or a quiet evening apart, you might feel hurt, lonely, or unsure how to find your way back. Perhaps one of you reaches to talk while the other goes quiet, and neither of you feels understood.
Therapy can offer a steady space where both of you feel heard. Together we can slow things down and begin to understand what keeps happening between you.
I'm Adam Lawrence-Rodriguez, a therapist registered with the BACP, with specialist couples training from Tavistock Relationships. If you think I might be able to support you, I'd be glad to hear from you.
Who I work with
I work with couples whose lives can look steady from the outside, while privately they feel hurt, distant, or caught in patterns that have become hard to shift alone.
The same argument keeps returning
You may both feel misunderstood, replaying what was said, unsure how to find your way back to each other.
You feel close in some ways, lonely in others
Daily life carries on, but sex, intimacy, or warmth can feel harder to reach, or hard to talk about.
Something still sits between you
Hurt, mistrust, or resentment can become difficult to speak about without things escalating or falling quiet.
You manage family life, less sure how to be partners
Perhaps since your first child, you are doing what needs doing while feeling tired, distant, or unsure where the couple has gone.
If any of this sounds familiar, do get in touch. It is very normal for one of you to feel more ready than the other, and we can begin from there.
How I Work
Therapy gives us time to slow down what keeps happening between you. The argument, the silence, the hurt, the things that become hard to say.
This might include arguments that keep returning, a loss of sex or intimacy, sexual difficulties, the strain that can follow a first child, or other pressures pulling you apart.
How therapy can help
With couples I do not take sides. I help you look at what happens between you, especially in moments of conflict, distance, or hurt. The work offers a steady space where both people feel heard, without either being blamed.
This is not a set of communication tips. Repeated arguments usually carry something older underneath. Together we work with that pattern, and with how family history, identity, and earlier experiences shape the ways you reach for, miss, or protect yourselves from each other.
I'm a mixed Black male therapist, and how we relate to masculinity and femininity, race, culture, faith, difference and belonging is part of the work here, not something separate from it. You can speak about what you carry without having to explain, translate, or make yourself smaller.
What a first session is like
You really do not need to arrive with everything worked out. This first meeting is just a chance for us to meet, for me to hear what has been happening between you, and for you both to get a sense of me. I will not take sides or decide who is right, and nothing about it commits you to carrying on.
How sessions run
Sessions are usually weekly, which helps the work build over time. Some people come for a few months, others for longer. I see people online wherever you are, and in person near Enfield, and I try to stay flexible with times so we can fit around your life.
A note on safety
Many couples arrive feeling raw or guarded, even unsafe with each other emotionally. That's welcome here, and often part of what we come to understand together. The one exception is where there is violence, or you feel afraid for your safety. If that's the case, couples therapy isn't the safest place to start, and I'd help you find support that fits better.
About me
I'm Adam Lawrence-Rodriguez, a therapist based in Enfield, North London. I work with couples and individuals, online wherever you are and in person near Enfield. I trained at Tavistock Relationships.
In my work with couples, I'm drawn to the places partners lose each other. Repeated arguments, quiet distance, pressures around parenting, sex and trust, and what becomes hard to say out loud.
Beginning therapy
Therapy begins with a first consultation. When you get in touch, I reply personally within a day or two, and anything you share is held in confidence.
Initial consultation
A first couples consultation of fifty minutes, for £80. This is not a commitment to ongoing work. It is a chance to understand what brings you, what you might need, and whether working together feels right.
Weekly sessions
Regular weekly sessions give the work continuity. Couples therapy is £120 per session. A small number of reduced fee spaces are available for those who would otherwise be unable to access therapy.
Understanding what keeps happening
We look at how arguments begin, how silence grows, what each of you may be protecting, and what becomes hard to say.
FAQ
Some questions people often have before beginning therapy.
How do we know if couples therapy could help?
Couples therapy, or couples counselling, may help if the same argument keeps returning, if you feel more like housemates or co parents than partners, or if something has happened that feels hard to repair. You do not need to be at breaking point to begin.
Why do we keep having the same argument?
Repeated arguments are often about more than the topic on the surface. In therapy we slow the argument down. We look at what each of you may be feeling, protecting, needing, or finding hard to say.
Can couples therapy help after having children?
Yes. Children can change a relationship in ways that are hard to name. You may be tired, more practical with each other, arguing more, having less sex, or feeling there is little room left for the couple. Therapy can help you think about what has changed, and what each of you may need.
Can we talk about sex, intimacy, parenting or open relationships?
Yes. Couples often bring questions around sex, desire, intimacy, parenting, boundaries, trust, or openness. Therapy offers a careful space to speak about these things without shame, pressure, or assumptions about what your relationship should look like.
Can couples therapy help with emotional distance?
Yes. Some couples come because conflict is loud. Others come because things have become quiet, practical, or lonely. Therapy can help you speak more honestly about what has been lost, avoided, or hard to reach.
What if I am the one looking for help and my partner is unsure?
It is common for one partner to begin looking before the other feels ready. This does not mean one cares more, or understands the relationship better. You may simply be at different points in noticing that something needs attention. The initial consultation gives both of you space to speak, without either person being blamed.
Where do sessions take place?
I see couples online wherever you are, and in person from rooms near Enfield Town, Enfield Chase and Winchmore Hill.
Reading Room
A quieter place for longer pieces on relationships, emotional life, and the struggles that keep returning.
Featured piece
When the Same Argument Keeps Returning
On the familiar places couples get stuck, why small conversations can turn painful, and what may sit beneath the argument itself.
If you keep finding yourselves in the same painful place, reading can offer another way to understand what happens between you.
More to read
What Is Relational Resonance?
On feeling seen, heard, and emotionally understood in relationships.
When You Feel Lonely in a Relationship
On quiet distance, daily routines, and what becomes hard to reach.
Family History and How We Love
On the old expectations, protections, and hopes we bring into closeness.
Explore the Reading Room, or arrange a consultation when you feel ready.
When you feel ready
There is no need to have it all worked out, or to find the perfect words. The first consultation is simply a chance to sit with what is happening, to get a feel for whether I am the right person, and to decide, without pressure, how you would like to go on.
Arrange a consultation