Relationship therapy · Enfield, North London & online
Relationship therapy for couples and individuals.
Whether you are coming together or on your own, therapy offers somewhere to understand what is happening, why certain patterns keep returning and what might be possible from here.
How can I help?
Couples therapy gives you both somewhere to slow things down, understand the patterns you have become caught in and think about what may be happening underneath them.
I also work with neurodiverse couples and mixed race and cross cultural relationships, where difference may shape how each of you experiences closeness, conflict or being understood.
Relational Resonance
I think of Relational Resonance as the sense that you can feel and respond to one another. You feel seen, understood and able to find your way back after difficult moments. When that sense of connection weakens, couples can start to miss each other even when both are trying.
In therapy, we slow down what happens between you and notice where connection gets lost. We make sense of the feelings, needs and ways of protecting yourselves underneath, so there is more room to understand each other and relate differently.
How I work with relationships →
Why work with me
My training has centred on relationships. I trained at Tavistock Relationships, a specialist centre for working with couples and individuals. I pay attention to the patterns that repeat, what happens between people and the feelings or earlier experiences underneath them.
I listen carefully and give things room, but I am not completely silent. I may slow something down, ask a question or notice something that keeps returning. My previous work includes senior leadership in race equity and I am a BAATN member. I am attentive to race, culture, identity, masculinity, sexuality, neurodiversity and difference without assuming what those experiences mean for you.
How we begin
Choose couples or individual therapy below to see how we would begin. The initial consultation gives you a sense of how I work and helps me consider whether regular therapy with me is the right next step for what you are bringing.
Both of you have room to speak and begin to understand what is happening in the relationship. You can get a sense of how I work. The consultation also helps me consider whether I can offer the kind of regular therapy you need. It does not assume that ongoing work will follow.
If we decide to continue, we agree a regular weekly time. The work develops over time as we pay attention to recurring patterns, difficult feelings and what becomes possible between you.
The consultation gives us time to understand what brings you, gives you a sense of how I work and helps me consider whether regular individual therapy with me is the right next step.
If we decide to continue, we agree a regular weekly time where we can think more deeply about what keeps repeating, what certain situations stir up in you and what you may want to understand or change.
In person or online
Meet in person in Enfield, North London, or online across the UK.
Meet in a private therapy room in Enfield, with a separate space away from home and the pressures of the week.
View Enfield locations →Meet together from a private place, with more flexibility around work, childcare, travel or where you live.
Explore online relationship therapy →Individual therapy
My specialist training in relationships informs my individual work too. People often come on their own because they want to understand what happens in relationships with partners, family, friends or colleagues, as well as the relationship they have with themselves.
Others come because something feels difficult to carry alone, including anxiety, low mood, loss or questions about identity. We can think together about what keeps repeating, what certain situations stir up in you and how earlier experiences may still shape the way you feel and relate today.
Explore Individual Therapy →Frequently asked
Some questions that can come up when you are deciding whether couples therapy feels right.
The terms overlap. I usually use couples therapy or relationship therapy for my work. Couples counselling, marriage counselling and relationship counselling may describe similar support. What matters most is whether the way I work feels right for you both.
Couples therapy can help with repeated arguments, emotional distance, difficulties with communication, sex or intimacy, loss of trust, infidelity, the impact of parenthood, family pressures and differences around culture or identity. You do not need to be at breaking point to come.
Often one partner enquires first. The consultation gives you both room to speak. I will not assume the person who contacted me is right or that the less certain partner is the problem.
Couples therapy can help you understand patterns behind repeated arguments, distance or hurt. It cannot guarantee you will stay together, but it can help you understand what each of you wants. Read more about whether couples therapy works.
Online sessions offer flexibility around work, childcare or distance. Meeting in person gives you a separate physical space. My online couples therapy page explains privacy and attending from different places.
Frequently asked
Some questions that can come up when you are deciding whether one to one therapy feels right.
The terms overlap. I use therapy for work that gives us time to understand current difficulties, repeating patterns, relationships and earlier experiences. Counselling and talking therapy can describe similar support.
Individual therapy can help with anxiety, low mood, relationship difficulties, loss, self criticism, identity or belonging. You may also want to understand patterns that keep repeating in relationships or how you relate to yourself.
You do not need a diagnosis or to be at breaking point. People often begin therapy because something feels heavy, confusing or difficult to understand alone, even when they are still managing other parts of life.
We think together about what is happening now, the relationships around you and earlier experiences that may shape how you feel and respond. You do not need to arrive knowing exactly what to talk about.
Online sessions can make therapy easier to fit around work, travel or where you live. Meeting in person gives you a separate physical space away from home or work. You can choose the setting where you feel most able to speak privately.
From the Reading Room
Short reflections on familiar relationship moments that can be difficult to explain. Not advice or homework, but invitations to think about what may be happening underneath.
Explore the Reading Room →Request an initial consultation for relationship therapy in Enfield, North London or online across the UK.
Request an Initial ConsultationIf you want to ask about availability, location or how I work before booking, you are welcome to message me.
Ask on WhatsApp → 07356 204020WhatsApp is best for practical questions rather than confidential or urgent support.