Individual therapy
How I work in individual therapy
I offer a calm, thoughtful space to help you understand what has become difficult, especially when you appear to be coping while privately feeling anxious, low, stuck or unsure of yourself.
My role is to support you by giving time to what is happening now, noticing patterns that may have formed in earlier relationships and making room for feelings that have been hard to put into words. The sections below introduce some of the difficulties I can help with, from anxiety, self-criticism and work pressure to relationship loss, family patterns, identity and belonging.
Your experience may not fit neatly under one heading, and more than one section may feel familiar. These pages offer starting points rather than a complete list of what we can think about together. Begin with whichever feels closest to what you are carrying now.
When it becomes hard to feel like yourself
When your mind does not seem to let you rest
You may continue functioning outwardly while privately feeling tense, depleted, hopeless or never quite good enough.
When anxiety and overthinking are hard to switch off
Your mind may keep returning to what could go wrong, what you should have said or the feeling that you cannot fully rest.
Read about anxiety counselling →When low mood leaves you feeling unlike yourself
You may still be getting through the day while privately feeling empty, withdrawn or unsure that anything will change.
Read about depression and low mood →When you never feel quite good enough
Even when things go well, your attention may move quickly to what you missed, disappointed or should have done better.
Read about low self-esteem →When work takes more than you can keep giving
You may appear capable and reliable while carrying exhaustion, pressure or the sense that you can never safely slow down.
Read about work stress and burnout →Relationships, loss and old patterns
When the same feelings keep returning with other people
Closeness, separation, guilt and responsibility may take familiar forms, even when you are determined for things to be different.
When a relationship ends but the feelings do not
A breakup, separation or divorce may leave you grieving the relationship, questioning yourself or unsure how to begin again.
Read about breakup and separation counselling →Why do I keep ending up in the same relationship?
You may keep finding yourself pursuing, withdrawing, mistrusting or choosing relationships that leave you feeling unseen.
Read about repeating relationship patterns →You say yes before checking what you want
You may feel responsible for other people, struggle to set boundaries or feel guilty when you try to say no.
Read about people pleasing and boundaries →When life continues but someone is missing
Grief can alter your sense of time, identity and connection, even when people around you expect life to have moved on.
Read about bereavement and grief →Identity, masculinity and belonging
When parts of you have been difficult to hold together
Race, culture, gender, masculinity and belonging can shape what feels safe to express and where you feel able to be fully yourself.
Counselling for men who find it hard to open up
A one-to-one space for men who carry pressure quietly, withdraw when things become intense or struggle to show vulnerability and need.
Read about counselling for men →Race, identity and where you feel you belong
You may be thinking about where you fit, what others expect of you or the emotional cost of moving between different worlds.
Read about race, culture and identity →Individual therapy with relationships in mind
Understanding what you carry into the present
My individual work is relational and psychodynamic. I pay attention to what is happening now, the patterns that may have formed in earlier relationships and what becomes easier or harder to say between us.
My training at Tavistock Relationships has given me a particular interest in how partners, parents, family, culture and other relationships shape our sense of who we are. I do not rush to give you a label or a neat explanation. We can stay curious about what has become familiar and what might begin to feel different.
Looking for something shorter?
The Reading Room begins with ordinary moments: lying awake replaying a conversation, saying yes too quickly or seeing a familiar name light up your phone.
Visit the Reading Room →Looking for couples therapy?
Explore affairs, intimacy, repeated arguments, parenthood, emotional distance and uncertainty about staying together.
How I work in couples therapy →When you feel ready
You do not need to have everything worked out or know exactly what to say. A few words about what has brought you here are enough to begin.
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