Online Couples Therapy and Relationship Therapy
For couples who feel stuck, distant, hurt or unsure what to do, with the flexibility to meet online.
Online couples therapy gives you both somewhere to slow things down, understand what keeps happening between you and make room for conversations that may have become difficult to have on your own.
How can I help?
You may still care deeply about each other and find yourselves repeating something neither of you knows how to change.
Relational Resonance
I think of Relational Resonance as the sense that you can feel and respond to one another. When that connection weakens, couples can begin to miss each other even when both are trying.
Online, I still pay attention to the way you respond, pause, pull back, look for reassurance or become harder to reach. Therapy gives us somewhere to slow those moments down and understand what each of you may be responding to or protecting.
Marriage can gradually become organised around children, money, work, caring responsibilities and everything that needs to get done. Sex or affection may change. Resentment can build. One of you may feel alone while the other feels constantly criticised or unable to get things right.
Some people arrive here having searched for online marriage counselling or relationship counselling. I use the word therapy because it best describes how I work. Whatever language brought you here, we can think about what has changed, what each of you has been carrying and what you want from the relationship now.
Online and in person
The focus remains the relationship. The setting changes how you arrive, how private the conversation feels and what happens around the session.
You join from a familiar place. This can make therapy easier to fit around work, family life or distance. It also means deliberately making enough space for the relationship for fifty minutes.
Coming to a separate room can mark the session out from everyday life. The journey there also gives each of you a little time to arrive before you begin.
Privacy needs a little planning. It helps to choose a room where you can both speak freely and are unlikely to be overheard or interrupted.
Leaving home creates a clearer physical boundary around the conversation, although travel and childcare may need more planning.
When the call ends, you are immediately back in your own space. Leaving a little room before the next task can help after an emotionally difficult session.
The journey away can create a natural transition. Some couples talk. Others need quiet. Either can give the session time to settle.
You can join from the same place or from different locations. Most couples find the conversation flows more naturally when they are together, but separate locations can work when needed.
You share the same physical room throughout the session, which can make some of the smaller moments between you easier to notice.
Fees and first steps
The initial consultation gives both of you room to speak, lets you experience how I work and helps me consider whether regular therapy with me would be suitable for what you need.
Both of you have room to say what has brought you to therapy and get a sense of how I work. The consultation also helps me consider whether regular therapy with me would be suitable. Ongoing work is not assumed.
If we decide to continue, we agree a regular weekly time. Consistency gives us enough continuity to notice patterns and stay with things that may take time to understand.
Making online therapy work well
Choose a space where you can both speak freely without worrying about being overheard or interrupted.
Joining a few minutes early and avoiding another commitment immediately afterwards can help the conversation feel separate from the rest of the day.
You can join from different places when needed, although being in the same space often helps the conversation feel more natural.
Before you begin
Some practical questions can matter when you are deciding whether meeting online feels right for both of you.
For many couples, online therapy can offer the same kind of thoughtful space as meeting in person. What matters is whether you can both be present, speak openly enough and stay engaged in the work. Some couples prefer being online. Others value being in a separate therapy room.
No. You can join from different places if that works better. The flow of the session often feels more natural when you are together, so I usually suggest sharing the same space when that is possible and feels comfortable for both of you.
It is common for one person to feel more certain than the other. The initial consultation gives both of you room to speak and experience how I work. I will not assume the person who made the enquiry is right or that the less certain partner is the problem.
I treat what you share online with the same care as I would in person. Your surroundings matter too. It helps to use a private room where other people cannot overhear the conversation.
It is worth choosing a time when you can both focus on the relationship and speak without being overheard. Depending on your home, that may mean arranging childcare or choosing a room away from children.
The words overlap. I use the word therapy, although you may have arrived here looking for couples counselling, marriage counselling or relationship counselling online. What matters most is whether the way I work feels right for you both.
The first fifty minute consultation is £80. Ongoing weekly couples therapy is £120 per fifty minute session. The initial consultation is not a commitment to ongoing therapy.
Relationships and digital life
Phones, messaging, social media and online spaces are now part of the emotional life of many relationships. They can bring closeness. They can also become places for comparison, secrecy, reassurance, fantasy and distance.
The Reading Room is where I think about some of these questions in more depth.
Explore the Reading Room →
Messaging, dating apps and the boundaries couples may only discover after something has happened.
Phones and trustWhen more information brings relief, but uncertainty quickly returns.
Social media and relationshipsExpectations, comparison and seeing relationships constantly performed online.
Request an initial consultation for online couples therapy across the UK.
Request an Initial ConsultationIf you want to ask about availability or how online therapy works before booking, you are welcome to message me.
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